Q, Do you believe you are mentally strong? Maybe its something that you never thought about. Read the following list to see if you can recognize some of your strengths and areas that you might need to work on.


1. They move on. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
If you notice that you have trouble letting go of feelings, especially for days, then this might be something to think about. Move on, let it go!!
2. They embrace change. They welcome challenges.
It’s all in how you word it… does change mean fear and uncertainty. Loss of control. If you can insert the word “challenge” it may make a huge difference. Change will always be a constant. But it can create different opportunities, maybe something better than what you have now.
3. They stay happy. They don’t waste energy on things they can’t control.
Okay, lets be realistic, no one is happy all the time but if you are overly focused on something that has happened in your life that you have no control over, what is happening to your energy? Many times the things we waste our precious energy on, never happen. If its not something that you need to think about then create a mantra, come up with some new responses when you find yourself thinking too much.
4. They are kind, fair and unafraid to speak up.
Being mentally centered and comfortable in your own skin affords you the opportunity to speak your mind and not be afraid. They know that they can’t please everyone and don’t waste time worrying about it.
5. They are willing to take calculated risks.
So they do their homework, get their ducks in alignment, then move forward. Taking no movement produces no results. When people say they are waiting to win the lottery but never buy a ticket, its probably not going to happen.
6. They celebrate other people’s success. They don’t resent that success.
Mental strength creates a comfort and a genuine joy in celebrating the success of others. In fact it can be inspiring and create growth in yourself.
So how did you do? Are you as mentally strong as you thought?

Vicki L Mayfield, M.Ed., R.N., LMFT Marriage and Family Therapy Oklahoma City

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